How you lead starts with how well you know yourself. This assessment helps you identify where your leadership is grounded — and where it is quietly draining you.

For each statement, choose the response that feels most honest. Not the leader you want to be. The leader you are right now.

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Scoring Scale

1 — Rarely
2 — Sometimes
3 — Often
4 — Most of the time
5 — Almost always

S1. I notice physical signals in my body (tension, tightness, ease) and use them as information before making decisions.

1 — Rarely

2 — Sometimes

3 — Often

4 — Most of the time

5 — Almost always

S2. When something feels off in a situation, I trust that feeling rather than talking myself out of it.

1 — Rarely

2 — Sometimes

3 — Often

4 — Most of the time

5 — Almost always

S3. I can identify what I am actually feeling in the moment — not just what I think I should be feeling.

1 — Rarely

2 — Sometimes

3 — Often

4 — Most of the time

5 — Almost always

S4. I pause before reacting in high-pressure moments rather than responding from instinct or habit.

1 — Rarely

2 — Sometimes

3 — Often

4 — Most of the time

5 — Almost always

S5. I check in with myself regularly throughout the day, not just when something goes wrong.

1 — Rarely

2 — Sometimes

3 — Often

4 — Most of the time

5 — Almost always

O1. I ask for help without feeling like it undermines my credibility or capability.

1 — Rarely

2 — Sometimes

3 — Often

4 — Most of the time

5 — Almost always

O2. I can rest — genuinely rest — without guilt or the feeling that I should be doing more.

1 — Rarely

2 — Sometimes

3 — Often

4 — Most of the time

5 — Almost always

O3. I receive compliments, support, and recognition without deflecting or immediately returning the gesture.

1 — Rarely

2 — Sometimes

3 — Often

4 — Most of the time

5 — Almost always

O4. I trust the people around me enough to let them hold part of what I am carrying.

1 — Rarely

2 — Sometimes

3 — Often

4 — Most of the time

5 — Almost always

O5. I stay open and curious in difficult conversations rather than becoming defensive or shutting down.

1 — Rarely

2 — Sometimes

3 — Often

4 — Most of the time

5 — Almost always

F1. I say no to requests that are not aligned with my priorities, without excessive explanation or guilt.

1 — Rarely

2 — Sometimes

3 — Often

4 — Most of the time

5 — Almost always

F2. I protect my energy — I notice when I am overgiving and make adjustments before I reach depletion.

1 — Rarely

2 — Sometimes

3 — Often

4 — Most of the time

5 — Almost always

F3. My pace of work feels sustainable rather than something I need to recover from on weekends.

1 — Rarely

2 — Sometimes

3 — Often

4 — Most of the time

5 — Almost always

F4. I respond to people and situations from a place of choice rather than obligation or fear of disappointing them.

1 — Rarely

2 — Sometimes

3 — Often

4 — Most of the time

5 — Almost always

F5. I build rest, reflection, and recovery into my rhythm rather than treating them as rewards I have not yet earned.

1 — Rarely

2 — Sometimes

3 — Often

4 — Most of the time

5 — Almost always

T1. I define success in terms that feel meaningful to me, not just metrics set by others or inherited expectations.

1 — Rarely

2 — Sometimes

3 — Often

4 — Most of the time

5 — Almost always

T2. I lead from a clear sense of my values rather than from urgency, pressure, or what I think is expected of me.

1 — Rarely

2 — Sometimes

3 — Often

4 — Most of the time

5 — Almost always

T3. I make decisions that feel aligned in my body — not just logical on paper.

1 — Rarely

2 — Sometimes

3 — Often

4 — Most of the time

5 — Almost always

T4. The way I lead has a positive ripple effect on the people around me — they feel more resourced, not more depleted, after time with me.

1 — Rarely

2 — Sometimes

3 — Often

4 — Most of the time

5 — Almost always

T5. I feel that my leadership is genuinely sustainable — something I could sustain for another ten years without burning out or losing myself.

1 — Rarely

2 — Sometimes

3 — Often

4 — Most of the time

5 — Almost always

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